When this blog will post what my heart speaks , let the first write-up be about the heart itself. When we talk about heart, the first thing that comes to our mind is 'Love' . This little word has fascinated not only me , but in-numerous poets , musicians , artists , film-makers , authors and even an ordinary home-maker. What is it about this word, that is so fascinating? Well, I don't want to present a repeating article about Love.
Let me speak about my version of love. You hear people say , or you yourself say , that your heart can love only one person sincerely, there is just one sincere love in your life , etc. That's the biggest lie I have ever heard. Imagine , your heart is divided into various sections. Each section has its own likes and dislikes , dos and don't dos. Thus each section evolves into mind and thoughts of different individuals . Each of these sections loves different persons , same time , with same intensity or rather , sincerity. You want examples?
Let me give you some preliminary examples first. Your parents , siblings , children , cousins , relatives , friends , spouse , even your pet , are some of the physical examples connected with your life and duties and your first school , first bike , first job , first mobile , first crush , your favorite dress , favorite color , favorite cuisines , favorite places , favorite songs , favorite movies , favorite authors , favorite books , your ideal man/woman, your patriotism , your political interest , favorite hobbies , your passions , favorite teacher ,etc are some of the emotional examples connected with your nostalgia ......you LOVE all of them.....versions of love......they are loved by the same 'you' , by a one and only one Heart you have.
Your good old heart has the capacity to hold all of them.......and most important , it does not leave anyone to accommodate the other....it loves all of them , at the Same time!!!
We say, all those who are connected with our duties are part of our life and they have to be 'liked' and all connected with our emotions and nostalgia are facts that makes us what we are and they have to be 'remembered' and cherished.......but apart from these if we have to be in Love , its a boy and girl OR man and woman , who exchange each other with those romantic glance and repeat the three famous words 'I LOVE YOU' ....and they become and continue to be the part of this Love story , until , they sign the contract. Got it? I will get you there.
You as a person are connected with each of these material or immaterial facts , in the names of tagged 'Relationships' . You have built a WALL around them . If you are a daughter , you can sit near your father , hugging him, as there are tags around you that you are 'father' and 'daughter' , not 'man' and 'woman' . Similarly for a 'mother' and 'son' , a 'brother' and 'sister' . You can say you know your classmate , because he is your 'classmate' . You can say 'he' is my friend because 'he' studied with me in school/college or 'he' worked or works with me. you can say I went to his house because my family knows him , You can say I smiled at him because , he lives in my neighborhood (applicable to 'she's also) . Everywhere , you stress the 'type' of relationship you have with the other person. You want to prove , why you know or like him. Else you are afraid that people will wrongly take it as the so called 'Affair' , more similarly , 'Love Affair' .
Love with your boy friend is to be kept a Secret , but love to your 'friend' or parents or siblings are not at all
a secret , because , by relationship , you HAVE to love them. That's what you are taught. Love , those , who are tagged as Yours , in the directory of society. The very moment you distract a small toddler boy , from giving a rose to a toddler girl, and scold them for doing so, you teach your kids the first lesson of being 'Selfish' . You teach them to be secretive , to hide things . It tempts them to do things that are forbidden . Like the Adams Apple.....
You restrict your poor heart . You keep instructing your heart , that , 'this is wrong , dare you do it.'. You warn your heart , you criticize your heart , you threat it , you hypnotize it , you struggle your entire life from peeping to the world outside that WALL you had built, the WALL of relationships and laws..restricting yourself from exploring the real individual in you and those outside the WALL. and you say proudly,
I am learning to Self-Control my feelings.............
Our heart satisfies each bit of its requirements from several persons in and around the WALL , but not all requirements is satisfied from one single person. Else, you don't need a father in his place or you don't need a mother in her place or you don't need siblings in their place or you don't need friends when you have your family already.........everyone justifies their purpose in your life.
Remembering the words in a song sung by the famous Poet Kumaranaashaan - "Snehamaanu akhilasaaramoozhiyil" - meaning , Love is the one and only essence of the universe. So allow your heart to Love. Yes , there are cons and pros for what I said. But what I am trying to point out is that we are living in a society where every other "Non-Sense" is practiced , but simply "Loving" is considered "Sense-less"!!!!!
Let me speak about my version of love. You hear people say , or you yourself say , that your heart can love only one person sincerely, there is just one sincere love in your life , etc. That's the biggest lie I have ever heard. Imagine , your heart is divided into various sections. Each section has its own likes and dislikes , dos and don't dos. Thus each section evolves into mind and thoughts of different individuals . Each of these sections loves different persons , same time , with same intensity or rather , sincerity. You want examples?
Let me give you some preliminary examples first. Your parents , siblings , children , cousins , relatives , friends , spouse , even your pet , are some of the physical examples connected with your life and duties and your first school , first bike , first job , first mobile , first crush , your favorite dress , favorite color , favorite cuisines , favorite places , favorite songs , favorite movies , favorite authors , favorite books , your ideal man/woman, your patriotism , your political interest , favorite hobbies , your passions , favorite teacher ,etc are some of the emotional examples connected with your nostalgia ......you LOVE all of them.....versions of love......they are loved by the same 'you' , by a one and only one Heart you have.
Your good old heart has the capacity to hold all of them.......and most important , it does not leave anyone to accommodate the other....it loves all of them , at the Same time!!!
We say, all those who are connected with our duties are part of our life and they have to be 'liked' and all connected with our emotions and nostalgia are facts that makes us what we are and they have to be 'remembered' and cherished.......but apart from these if we have to be in Love , its a boy and girl OR man and woman , who exchange each other with those romantic glance and repeat the three famous words 'I LOVE YOU' ....and they become and continue to be the part of this Love story , until , they sign the contract. Got it? I will get you there.
You as a person are connected with each of these material or immaterial facts , in the names of tagged 'Relationships' . You have built a WALL around them . If you are a daughter , you can sit near your father , hugging him, as there are tags around you that you are 'father' and 'daughter' , not 'man' and 'woman' . Similarly for a 'mother' and 'son' , a 'brother' and 'sister' . You can say you know your classmate , because he is your 'classmate' . You can say 'he' is my friend because 'he' studied with me in school/college or 'he' worked or works with me. you can say I went to his house because my family knows him , You can say I smiled at him because , he lives in my neighborhood (applicable to 'she's also) . Everywhere , you stress the 'type' of relationship you have with the other person. You want to prove , why you know or like him. Else you are afraid that people will wrongly take it as the so called 'Affair' , more similarly , 'Love Affair' .
Love with your boy friend is to be kept a Secret , but love to your 'friend' or parents or siblings are not at all
a secret , because , by relationship , you HAVE to love them. That's what you are taught. Love , those , who are tagged as Yours , in the directory of society. The very moment you distract a small toddler boy , from giving a rose to a toddler girl, and scold them for doing so, you teach your kids the first lesson of being 'Selfish' . You teach them to be secretive , to hide things . It tempts them to do things that are forbidden . Like the Adams Apple.....
You restrict your poor heart . You keep instructing your heart , that , 'this is wrong , dare you do it.'. You warn your heart , you criticize your heart , you threat it , you hypnotize it , you struggle your entire life from peeping to the world outside that WALL you had built, the WALL of relationships and laws..restricting yourself from exploring the real individual in you and those outside the WALL. and you say proudly,
I am learning to Self-Control my feelings.............
Our heart satisfies each bit of its requirements from several persons in and around the WALL , but not all requirements is satisfied from one single person. Else, you don't need a father in his place or you don't need a mother in her place or you don't need siblings in their place or you don't need friends when you have your family already.........everyone justifies their purpose in your life.
Remembering the words in a song sung by the famous Poet Kumaranaashaan - "Snehamaanu akhilasaaramoozhiyil" - meaning , Love is the one and only essence of the universe. So allow your heart to Love. Yes , there are cons and pros for what I said. But what I am trying to point out is that we are living in a society where every other "Non-Sense" is practiced , but simply "Loving" is considered "Sense-less"!!!!!
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